Body language is an interesting phenomenon. Many guys out there will not notice body language of themselves or the women around them. Body language can be misinterpreted improperly so its important to be aware of what is going on. If a girl starts dancing with a guy and things get close. Some guys will think she wants to get with him, where as the girl may just be dancing like she normally does. Poor attention to body language can complexify situations and lead to awkward interactions between men and women. So here is ten ways to improve body language with women.

1. Eye contact is one of the most important aspects when interacting with others, especially when you meet for the first time. Maintaining good eye contact shows respect and interest in what they have to say. Keep eye contact around 60-70% of the time. By doing this you won’t make people feel self conscious, like they’ve got some lunch left between their teeth or a sweat drop hanging from the nose. Instead, it will give them a feeling of comfort and genuine warmth in your company, any more eye contact than this and you can be too intense, any less and you give off a signal that you are lacking interest in them or their conversation. So pay attention the next time you walk up to a girl; your eye contact can allow you to flirt with her.
2. Posture is something everyone should be conscious of and should try to keep as much as possible. No one wants to be the hunchback, but no one wants to look like the pompous asshole that looks down his nose upon others. Get your posture right and you’ll automatically start feeling better, as it makes you feel good almost instantly. Next time you notice you’re feeling a bit down, take a look at how you’re standing or sitting. Chances are you’ll be slouched over with your shoulders drooping down and inward. This collapses the chest and inhibits good breathing, which in turn can help make you feel nervous or uncomfortable. Posture also directly translates into how women perceive your confidence. If you are slouched over and cowering in the corner of a party, chances are that you don’t have the confidence to initiate a conversation with anyone.
3. Head position is good to become familiar with. When you want to feel confident and self-assured keep your head level both horizontally and vertically. You can also use this straight head position when you want to be authoritative and what you’re saying to be taken seriously. Conversely, when you want to be friendly and in the listening, receptive mode, tilt your head just a little to one side or other. You can shift the tilt from left to right at different points in the conversation. This does not mean you have a one-way ticket to be awkward and tilt your head too much off to one side. It should look natural and not forced.
4. Arms give away the clues as to how open and receptive we are to everyone we meet and interact with, so keep your arms out to the side of your body. The best thing guys can do is to take your thumb and press it against your middle finger when you stand. This will allow you to feel as though you are doing something with your hands and the wont become restless and move all around your body in awkward positions. This shows you are not scared to take on whatever comes your way and you meet things “full frontal”. In general terms the more outgoing you are as a person, the more you tend to use your arms with big movements. The quieter you are the less you move your arms away from your body. So, try to strike a natural balance and keep your arm movements midway. When you want to come across in the best possible light, crossing the arms is a no, no in front of others. Obviously if someone says something that gets your goat, then by all means show your disapproval by crossing them.
5. Legs are the furthest point away from the brain, consequently they’re the hardest bits of our bodies to consciously control. They tend move around a lot more than normal when we are nervous, stressed or being deceptive. So best to keep them as still as possible in most situations, especially at interviews or work meetings. Be careful in the way you cross your legs. Do you cross at the knees, ankles or bring your leg up to rest on the knee of the other? This is more a question of comfort than anything else. Just be aware that the last position mentioned is known as the “Figure Four” and is generally perceived as the most defensive leg cross, especially if it happens as someone tells a you something that might be of a slightly dubious nature, or moments after. Try not to look awkward with leg crossing and maintain a natural position.
6. Angle of the body in relation to others gives an indication of our attitudes and feelings towards them. We angle toward people we find attractive, friendly and interesting and angle ourselves away from those we don’t. Yes it can be really that simple. Angles includes leaning in or away from people, as we often just tilt from the pelvis and lean sideways to someone to share a bit of conversation. For example, we are not in complete control of our angle at the movies because of the seating nor at a concert when we stand shoulder to shoulder and are packed in like sardines. In these situations we tend to lean over towards the other person. Pay attention to body angles especially when looking at other people. If you encounter a woman who is ageing away from you and keeping her distance then she is obviously not interested so stop trying so hard to get closer.
7. Hand gestures are so numerous it’s hard to give a brief guide but here goes. Palms slightly up and outward is seen as open and friendly. Palm down gestures are generally seen as dominant, emphasizing and possibly aggressive, especially when there is no movement or bending between the wrist and the forearm. This palm up, palm down is very important when it comes to handshaking and where appropriate we suggest you always offer a handshake upright and vertical, which should convey equality. One thing people should not do while sitting is to cross or lock their fingers together with one another. This is a sign of uneasiness and nervousness. Just be relaxed and retain a comfortable natural position.
8. Distance from others is crucial if you want to give off the right signals. Stand too close and you’ll be marked as “Pushy” or “In your face”. Stand or sit too far away and you’ll be “Keeping your distance” or “Stand offish”. Neither are what we want, so observe if in a group situation how close are all the other people to each other. Also notice if you move closer to someone and they back away, you’re probably just a tiny bit too much in their personal space, their comfort zone. “You’ve overstepped the mark” and should pull back a little. So if you step to a girl and she backs up, then that means you are either moving to fast, or she is disinterested. Figure out which one it is and act accordingly.
9. Ears, yes your ears play a vital role in communication with others, even though general terms most people can’t move them much, if at all. However, you’ve got two ears and only one mouth, so try to use them in that order. If you listen twice as much as you talk you come across as a good communicator who knows how to strike up a balanced a conversation without being me, me, me or the wallflower. So stop waiting for her to stop talking just so you can get your two cents in. Listen to what she says and think about it before talking.
10. Mouth movements can give away all sorts of clues. We purse our lips and sometimes twist them to the side when we’re thinking. Another occasion we might use this movement is to hold back an angry comment we don’t wish to reveal. Nevertheless, it will probably be spotted by other people and although they may not know the comment, they will get a feeling you were not too pleased. There are also different types of smiles and each gives off a corresponding feeling to its recipient. Remember she has a secret smile reserved only for that special someone and when you see it, you should be happy.